Benjamin Franklin: When you are done changing, you’re done.
Much research shows that marital satisfaction declines over time. However, a 2012 study suggests that the happier the couple is at the start, the less the decline. (Scientific American Mind, 2014, 25(1), p. 10.)
Rita Rudner: Neurotics build castles in the air; psychotics live in them. My mother cleans them.
Too high expectations about the marital relationship can result in enough disappointment with even minor conflicts that spouses don’t try to respond proactively. (Scientific American Mind, 2014, 25(1), p. 10)
Money is a concern for 7 out of 10 couples. (Scientific American Mind, 2014, 25(1), p. 11.)
Frequent procrastinators are often avoiding unwanted feelings, like depression and anxiety. They tend to be self-critical and have insecurities. Those who can reappraise and think more positively about themselves and the tasks at hand procrastinate less. (Upson, S. Prodding our inner sloth. Scientific American Mind, 24(5), 42-49)
J. Winterson (2011): The past is so hard to shift. It comes with us like a chaperone, standing between us and the newness of the present-the new chance. (Why be happy when you could be normal? New York, NY: Grove Press)
Among the seven deadly sins, envy is the only one that is never fun. (Crusius, J. & Mussweiler, T. Untangling envy. Scientific American Mind, 2013, 24, 5, pp. 35-37)
Expressive writing helps heal psychological problems and also promotes physical healing. There is the possibility that writing in the third, rather than the first, person is more beneficial. (Scientific American Mind, 2013, 24925), p. 17)
W. Mosier(2013.During and after divorce. Annals of Psychotherapy and Integrated Health., 16(3), pp. 82-83) offered some guidelines for divorcing parents: (1) Both parents together should tell the children and reassure them that they are loved and it’s not their faults. (2) They should give a general, not detailed, explanation and each should accept responsibility for the decision to reduce blame and underline its finality. (3) Parents should explain living and visitation arrangements. (4) Parents should not criticize the other parent in front of the children, nor use them as pawns between them, nor ask them to take sides. (5) Stability in the children’s daily life should be preserved as much as possible. (6) Discipline should continues in spite of parental guilt. (7) Children need to be encouraged to express their concerns. and (8) Each parent should continue to be very involved with each child.
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