Crocker, J. & Carnevale, J: “Self-esteem that is contingent on success is fragile.” (Letting go of self-esteem. Scientific American Mind, 2013, 24. 4, p. 28)
It looks like using the internet to search for a mate leads to more satisfactory marriages with fewer breakups. ( Scientific American Mind, 2013, 24, 4, p. 13)
Jascha Heifetz: No matter what side of the argument you’re on, you always find some people on your side that you wish were on the other side.
A University of Michigan study found that people with unsupportive spouses were much more likely to develop depression than those with positive marital relationships. (PLOS ONE, April 30 in Monitor on Psychology, 2013, 44, 7, p. 17)
Among 35 to 64 year old Americans, the suicide rate increased by 28.4% between 1999 and 2010, according to Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. (Monitor on Psychology, 2013, 44, 7, p. 12)
Stanislaw Lec: No snowflake in an avalanche ever feels responsible.
Where’d You Go, Bernadette (2012), a Maria Semple novel, deserves the high critical praise it has been given for its laugh-out-loud humor and its masterful interweaving of first person narrative with letters, e-mails, written documents, and even an ER bill. By having the narrator, Bernadette’s daughter, Bee, use these various materials written from and to a variety of characters, Ms. Semple shows how to enact what seemed to me to be the unifying message of the story: It is best to use all the resources at hand to understand, create, and communicate.
The title character, Bernadette, a master architect, was able to show what wonderful creations can be made from using concrete materials, by the way which often did include poured concrete. But all collapsed, or was razed, because she disregarded human resources. Except for her daughter and husband, Bernadette could only try to connect with those at a distance. She wrote her most personally revealing missives to a former architect mentor, who admittedly barely knew her personally and lived elsewhere, and to a virtual assistant in India, who turned out to be an internet scam run by the Russian Mafia. She could only deal with the culture and people where she lived, Seattle, through very funny, and often accurate, satire and withdrawal. Underneath, however, was a very loving, as well as brilliant, woman.
The book is a rambunctious account of Bernadette’s journey toward being able to use all of her available resources, material and human. It is well worth the time spent reading it for its many good laughs and inspiration.
Use of social networking and texting are linked to negative academic outcomes, while listening to music and reading the newspaper are linked to positive outcomes. (Monitor on Psychology, 2013, 44, 6, p.16)
He observed, “with knowledge comes more doubt.”
In a survey of the directors of college counseling centers, 95% said that there is a growing number of college students with significant adjustment problems: anxiety, depression, and relationship problems are the top three. (Monitor on Psychology, 2013, 44, 6)
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