Marshall McLuhan: Many a good argument is ruined by some fool who knows what he is talking about. http://www.finebergpsychotherapy.com
Communication
8 MarA recent study of about 1800 parents of kids ages 8 to 18 found parents to be spending an average of 9 hours 22 minutes everyday in front of various screens. Of this time, nearly 8 hours are for personal, not business, use. (Sheibk, K. Digital hypocrisy. Scientific American Mind, 2017, 28 (2), 10-11) http://www.finebergpsychotherapy.com
Relationships
4 MarA Harvard University study of adult development, spanning almost 80 years, showed that, no matter their socioeconomic status, men raised in warmer families used more adaptive methods to handle their negative emotions in midlife and had stronger attachments to their partners in later life. Here is more data to support the conclusion that early family relationships have life-long effects. (Caruso, C. Good relationships are all in the family. Scientific American Mind, 2017, 28(2), 10-11) http://www.finebergpsychotherapy.com
Wit
1 MarComedian Rita Rudner: I love being married. It’s so great to find one special person you want to annoy for the rest of your life. http://www.finebergpsychotherapy.com
Humor
22 FebToo much empathy can increase stress, especially when the emotionally astute take on responsibility for the feelings that they are attuned to. (Blaszczak-BOxe, A. The dark side of emotional intelligence. Scientific American Mind, 2017, 28(2), p. 9) http://www.finebergpsychotherapy.com
Wit
18 FebAnthropologist Marshall Sahlins: Self-love seems so often unrequited. http://www.finebergpsychotherapy.com
Empathy
16 FebWhen you try to read the emotions of others, especially if they are strangers, careful thinking tends to be more accurate than intuition.(Hutson, M. Don’t go with your gut. Scientific American Mind, 2017, 28(2), p. 8) http://www.finebergpsychotherapy.com
Suicide
9 FebA recent meta-analysis of 365 studies done over fifty years showed that experts cannot predict suicidal behaviors any better than chance, and their predictive ability has not improved over time. (In brief, Suicide risk. Monitor on Psychology, 2017, February, p. 12) http://www.finebergpsychotherapy.com
Wisdom
4 FebUrsula Le Guin: All of us have to learn how to invent our lives, make them up, imagine them. If we don’t, our lives get made up for us by other people. http://www.finebergpsychotherapy.com
Novel Comments
11 FebI finally read James McBride’s The Color of Water(1996/2006). The author is the eighth of twelve children of a born and raised white Jewish Mother and a Christian black father. His parents, married in the early 1940’s, were in a precarious position. James’s mother became “dead” to her parents and extended family and lived in New York City’s all black neighborhoods with her husband. She converted to Christianity, and, in fact, she and her husband founded a church.
All twelve children were raised on two fundamental values: God and education. Their mother told them that God is the color of water. All twelve became accomplished adults. James McBride is an award winning journalist, author, musician, and composer. His mother got her degree in social work at age 65 and remained a dynamic contributor to her community for many years afterwards.
By juxtaposing stories about his mother and his own life, James McBride illuminated his and his mother’s struggles with identity amidst the contradictions of culture, class, race, and religion. The novel has been already daubed a “classic.” I found it to be a page turner. If you haven’t already read it, it is well worth the time.